Good morning! We've talked before about how our closets tell us so much about our style, even more than we can probably put into words if asked. This tickles me, but it's also troubling considering the fact that we very likely have no idea what's really in our closets, meaning maybe we don't know our own style selves.

I like to think my style is a little edgy, a little masculine, comfy and pretty basic. I think that might be because, after years and years of pretending to fit into different trends, I'm starting to accept my style for what it is, and my shopping habits reflect that. Repeat: years and years.

Friends, I feel sad when I hear my clients tell me that an item in their closet stays because they feel like they should own it. That is the silliest logic! Just because something looks right on others doesn't mean it deserves a place in our closet. I love the way Taylor Swift looks in coordinates, but that's just not me, so I'm not going to go there.

Find your style and own it. While trying new styles and pieces is wonderful, it's what you're wearing on your back every day that visually defines you to the world at large. If you take a step back and decide you don't like what you're working with, then you can start to make that slow change.

In 2011, I decided that I wanted to put more effort into what I wore. I theorized that it would make me feel better, and I was absolutely right. A slow change started to happen; I spent more time accessorizing, I became thoughtful about pieces I bought, I tried everything and determined (of my own accord) what looked best.

Looking through my closet now, there's a much clearer sense of my style than ever before, and it all started 4 years ago when I decided to just be maself.

Does any of this make sense? I took half of an Ambien at 3am because I couldn't sleep, so who knows what planet I'm on right now. Till tomorrow!

xoxo,

photo by Ashley Caroline.