weds-day: the fox and the raven

ALLIE_RAVEN_CREST_layers Now that our invitations went out (whaaaaat!?), I am so excited to share my most favorite part of our wedding: our crest! A few years ago I saw Happy Menocal's work in a magazine and I knew immediately that I wanted to work with her for our big day. She totally got our vision for our invitations and this crest is the crown jewel.

Throughout all of the insanity of wedding planning, it's easy to forget that you and your partner are becoming family. Every Irish family has a crest (this is the O'Connor crest), and I love the idea that as Raven and I start our own family, we get to have a unique crest as well. This crest is on our invites, will be plastered all over our wedding, and for years to come I'll obnoxiously affix it to anything that I deem even somewhat appropriate.

So there you have it! I've been sitting on that crest for about 6 months and it feels AWESOME to get it out there.

xoxo,

ALLIE SIGNATURE

weds-day: wedding themes

Friends, it has been a busy week for me thus far. Sunday evening my sister and Mom came into town and we spent most of Monday poking around shops, eating, and capped the day off with Hamilton on Broadway. Which is one of the best pieces of theater I have ever seen. Any way I try to describe it will sound ineloquent so I'll just say: go see it. It is one of those shows with true staying power, and the cast is absolutely brilliant. Okay, now that that PSA is out of the way, let's catch up on this wedding that is happening in 74 days (not that I am counting). When we got engaged, we never had a conversation where we agreed on wedding colors. I dreamt up a loose theme I dubbed "The Fox and The Raven," ran it by Raven, who approved it / loved the idea, and then we began to piece together the look.

Here's the original mood board I showed you all. And here's an updated version based on what is actually happening:

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Watercolor, sprinkles, dark pinks and neon green, vintage touches, fox decor, moody florals, evergreen trees and topiaries. These are a few of my favorite things.

Rather than having a complete, fleshed out theme and checking items off of a master list, our vision for the day have evolved based on what vendors we were able to book, decor we could find in our price range, and boring logistical things like that. Sure, ideally we'd plan out the entire day and make decisions based on what is aesthetically pleasing, (rather than aesthetically pleasing and also affordable). Ideally, we'd also move into a house with a white picket fence and have 2.5 kids before I turn 34. But life doesn't happen that way...and neither should your wedding.

Be flexible with your vision for the big day; let it evolve and learn to make well thought out substitutions for must-have items. I'm so pumped for November 7th!

xoxo,

ALLIE SIGNATURE

weds-day: random updates

Processed with VSCOcam with c1 preset Good morning, friends! I apologize for my absence these past few days. We've been having a time here in the O'Koehler household. I'm not sure I've ever mentioned it on the blog, but Charlie has had terrible seasonal allergies this summer. So bad that we keep a cone on him (per the vet's recommendation) when he's in the house - to keep him from scratching to injury. Earlier this summer the vet put Charlie on this new allergy medicine which came highly recommended. What we didn't know is that it suppresses the immune system of the dog who takes it, making him much more vulnerable to random ailments. Long story short, he caught one of those random ailments and went back to the vet yesterday for tests and to pick up some antibiotics. I sound like a crazy person recounting tales of my dog at the vet, but it is so stressful having to play the guessing game with someone who can't verbally communicate. Charlie is our baby for sure, so we're so relieved that he's on medication and (hopefully) on the mend.

So, that's why you didn't hear from me yesterday. On the wedding front, my SIL and I have been busy  stuffing, stamping, and addressing our invites, which we're sending out next week. Thank god for my sister-in-law because this is the kind of tedious activity that makes my skin crawl. It's easy but requires so much focus (so many components!) that for some reason I cannot relax about it.

Other item to note: wedding weight. I know I know. But I have to mention it. I don't need to lose any weight for the wedding, but I would love a tightening / toning and perhaps serendipitous weight loss. The barre classes I attend are wonderful and I definitely feel stronger having taken them for the past few months, but I would love love love your input. All of my friends / family have their secret weapon recommendations for me (cardio 5x a week, eat whole foods only, don't drink, etc), but I want more. I want to feel like I'm not the only grown ass adult who has absolutely no idea how to get in shape.

So...can you help? Get at me, friends! And I promise to come back here tomorrow with some legit content for you.

xoxo,

ALLIE SIGNATURE

3 rules for your engagement shoot

View More: http://ashley-caroline.pass.us/allieravenengagement Your engagement shoot is an opportunity to practice posing for the big day, to get to know your photographer (and stylist :), and have a blast. It's a big deal, but it's also supposed to be fun. Please, let it be fun and easy.

Working with clients on their engagement shoot outfits is one of my favorite aspects of my job, and I thought I'd share a few tips that I've learned along the way.

1. Look like yourself... This is a big one. Before you even go down the Pinterest rabbit hole dreaming about what you want to wear, plan on selecting at least one piece you already own for your shoot. Before our engagement shoot, I went crazy sourcing dresses. I was thinking so far outside the box that I was losing who I am with regards to my clothing / style. At the eleventh hour, after trying on countless dresses, I scrapped everything, ordered a coat, and paired it with one of my favorite plaid dress (and snow boots!). The day of the shoot, Ashley and I agreed that what I chose was way more "me" than anything else we had talked about. Lesson learned; be yourself!

2. ...But take risks. If you're doing two looks, and you've got your true self happening in the first look, go crazy with the second look. That doesn't mean that if you're a jeans and t-shirt gal, you need to then wear a gown. No - let it happen organically. Visit your photographer's website and pin a few images that inspire you. Google your style icon, breakdown their outfit, and go on a google-ing spree for similar pieces. Just make sure to plan in advance - sometimes the reality of an outfit doesn't always work out (the point is to try!).

3. No matchy matchy. Do not look at your fiance's outfit and say, "Okay, s/he's wearing blue, so let me also wear blue." Noooo! Don't do it. Coordinate with your partner, don't match. I like to remind my clients - this isn't literal. We're working within a certain concept and the revelations have to come naturally. Does that make sense? So, figure out what you're wearing, then piece together your partner's outfit. Do mix prints, do mix high and low. Do not worry about it. And if none of this makes sense, do hire a stylist.

Just to show you guys what the process looks like, here is the initial proposal I got together for one client:

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We truthfully tried on upwards of 30 dresses. Here's the final look:

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Are you buyin what I'm sellin? Get at me with questions, friends.

xoxo,

ALLIE SIGNATURE

 

 

 

 

 

 

top photo by Ashley Caroline, bottom photo by Joseph Lin.

weds-day: my bag of tricks

Ashley Caroline Photography-1 Every time I have a wedding, I suit up with my backpack (I always need both hands) and a Mary Poppins problem solving bag. Have you heard of these little kits? Multiply that by 1000, and you'll get a sense of what I've got floating around in my bag. This kind of extensive inventory is a bit much to have on hand if you don't have a stylist working your wedding, but it's good to have a few key pieces with you just in case.

If you have a bridal party of any size, chances are you won't need to think about the following:

Chapstick

Tampons

Bobby pins

Makeup Brushes

Someone will likely have with them all the above. What's more, if you're having a wedding at a hotel, you can cross a steamer and / or an iron off your list.

Below are the items I have needed on my person for every wedding I've ever worked. If you're not having a stylist, I suggest adding these to the docket for the big day:

Lint roller

Scissors

Band Aids

Granola Bar + Water

Painkillers

Those sound obvious, right? Someone will surely have those items for the wedding day, you're thinking. It's not that someone has them, it's when someone has them. A lint roller during group photos (for crumb-covered suits), scissors for getting ready (2 weeks ago I had to cut the tag out of my bride's dress moments before she walked down the aisle!), bandaids for flower girls' new Mary Janes, granola bar and water for pre-first look jitters (brides never eat enough), and painkillers for anyone and everyone at any moment.

Here's a question: what item couldn't you have gone without on your wedding day? Any interesting stories you want to share?

OH! And if you want to hire me to style your wedding, shoot me an email here.

xoxo,

ALLIE SIGNATURE

 

 

 

 

 

photo by Ashley Caroline.